Break out of your shell and find the rich social life you deserve…
What does your life look like on a typical weekend night?
If you’re anything like how I used to be, you’re often just surfing the internet, or watching TV, or reading a book.
For years that’s what I called my “social life.”
I didn’t have any real friends. I didn’t go out on dates. And I didn’t know how to just go to a bar or party and start instantly connecting with people.
Whenever I was with a group of people, I was always the quiet and shy one.
I didn’t know what to say. I didn’t know how to keep a conversation going. I was too nervous and tense to even pay attention to my surroundings. It was like I was in a trance that I couldn’t shake myself out of.
All I wanted to do was go back home where I could feel safe again. The outside world was unbearable.
Does this sound familiar to you?
Don’t worry. You’re not alone. Social anxiety is one of the most common disorders people have. Studies show that about 1 in every 5 people experience some type of social anxiety disorder.
Your social anxiety can create all types of problems in your life…
- You cancel plans last minute because you’re too afraid to go out.
- You don’t say a word in any of your group meetings or classes.
- Ordering food at a restaurant becomes a tedious, nerve-wracking chore.
- Whenever someone laughs, you assume they are laughing at you.
- Whenever you hear people talking or whispering, you assume they are talking about you.
- You’re deathly afraid to open up to people, because you think they will judge you in a negative way.
- People think that your silence means that you hate them.
With social anxiety, every tiny social interaction becomes a complex problem that you don’t know how to solve.
You feel like a complete loser. You start to hate the world around you because it feels impossible to find anyone who you can connect with.
When I was like this, everything began to feel hopeless – I knew that I had to start making a change or I was going to end up on a dark path I could never get away from.
Addicted to Your Shell – Where It’s Safe
If you mention me to anyone from my classes in high school or college, they will probably say I was the shyest in my class.
Or worse – they wouldn’t even remember me.
I used to always try to blend into my social situations. I stayed in a shell that I never wanted to come out of. I only went to places where I felt completely safe and comfortable.
The truth is I didn’t want to be noticed at all, because I was too afraid of what people would think of me. I was too afraid no one would like me. And I was too afraid people would see me for the “weirdo” and “loser” that I thought I was.
My bedroom was my safe place, and I never wanted to leave it.
It was where I felt comfortable. It was where I didn’t feel judged. And it was where I didn’t have to worry about people at all.
Over time, social anxiety makes you want to seclude yourself and stop connecting with people. Forget trying to “go out” or “be social” – that’s way too much work and stress. It feels safer to just stay home.
And for awhile, being completely alone can work out “OK.” Until you realize it’s not the answer…
The Self-Fulfilling Cycle of Social Anxiety
For a very long time, I tried to convince myself that I didn’t need people to be happy.
Who needs people? Not me. I can be perfectly happy alone by myself. People are overrated.
Social anxiety can become a self-fulfilling belief. You try to protect yourself by thinking…
- “Everyone sucks.”
- “People are just stupid.”
- “No one’s ever going to understand me.”
- “Relationships are overrated.”
- “I’m just not a friendly person.”
Have you ever had any thoughts like these?
The key problem is when you approach your relationships with this type of NEGATIVE MINDSET, they start becoming a self-fulfilling belief.
You go into a social interaction with the BELIEF that “No one is going to like me” and then you ACT in ways that actually make it come true.
The cycle looks like this: Beliefs → Actions → Results → Beliefs.
If you have the belief that “No one is going to like me,” then that influences you to act more selfish, rude, or distant toward people. And naturally, the people you act that way toward aren’t going to like you.
Then worst of all, you take that new experience and confirm your old mindset: “See? I’m right – I knew they weren’t going to like me! No one ever does! People suck!”
And you’re NOT completely wrong…
No one is going to like you if you assume they aren’t going to like you before you even meet them. Your expectations are a powerful force in the relationships you build with others.
Unfortunately, it can be very difficult to break this negative cycle of negative expectations.
This is why social anxiety can often begin to feed into itself. Growing stronger. Getting worse and worse.
When It’s Finally Time to Make a Change
When I was stuck in this vicious cycle of social anxiety, I finally reached a point where I knew I had to make a change.
I couldn’t keep going down this same path. I couldn’t keep living my life in fear and insecurity day after day. I was lonely, hopeless, and depressed.
Something had to change – ANYTHING – I truly felt like it was “do or die” time.
This is what first sparked my interest in learning more about psychology and how our minds work…
If I understood how my mind works then maybe I could change it. Maybe I could turn my mind from an “enemy” into a “friend.” And maybe I could overcome my social anxiety and break this cycle…
Over the next 10 years, I became addicted to learning as much as I could about how my mind works. I discovered and consumed hundreds of different books, articles, podcasts, and videos about psychology and self improvement.
Slowly, the pieces started coming together for me…
And after a lot of time, work, and failure, I started to discover what really works vs. what doesn’t work.
You see, I know there’s a lot of information out there about how to overcome “social anxiety” – and 99% of it is rehashed clichés or complete crap. I know this because I’ve consumed it all.
But…there’s also that 1% of advice and information out there that can ACTUALLY help you.
It didn’t happen overnight. It took me a really long time but I finally started to find tips and advice that were actually helping me.
Gradually, my social anxiety became easier and easier to deal with…
Situations that used to make me really anxious, now only made me a little anxious. And situations that used to make me a little anxious, now didn’t make me anxious at all.
It became easier to go out to new places. It became easier to make plans and meet up with friends. And it became easier to start approaching people and building new connections instantly.
I was getting better. Slowly…I was improving…
Breaking the Negative Cycle of Social Anxiety
Is it possible to break this negative cycle?
How can you do it?
Often you need to make a change in your attitude before you can start thinking, feeling, and acting differently in your social world.
This is no small feat. Real change takes real effort, dedication, and time. There are no magical solutions to social anxiety. Sorry, it’s true.
However, there are tools and exercises that will push your mind in a new direction.
By practicing these exercises, you can more easily “let go” of all the negative experiences from your past and stop letting them shape your future. You start building a new social self from a fresh new slate.
When you get your mind moving in a new direction – and seeing things in a whole new light – you can begin cultivating new expectations and new ways of interacting in your social world.
These new expectations then become a new type of self-fulfilling belief.
Instead of going into a social event thinking “No one is going to like me,” you start thinking new and healthier belief patterns like…
- “People will like me once they get to know me.”
- “I can build a positive connection with anyone.”
- “I’m a really good person, even if not everyone can see that right away.”
Imagine approaching your relationships with this new mindset?
Imagine how much easier it would be to connect with others if you had positive expectations going in – and not the usual negative expectations.
How would you think differently? How would you feel differently? How would you act differently?
And how would all of these lead to an overall change in the relationships you build with others?
This shift in your mindset is the ultimate goal if you want to overcome your social anxiety.
It’s Time to Share Everything I’ve Discovered!
Building a new mindset isn’t always easy.
However, discovering the right tools, exercises, and information can be of tremendous help.
Over the past decade I’ve discovered over 50 exercises that can have a huge impact on how your mind works.
I literally owe my life to these exercises. They have saved my life in so many ways. And to be painfully honest, I don’t know where I’d be without them.
Now that I’ve discovered these amazing tools and exercises for myself, I feel an overwhelming passion to share them with you.
My life was so miserable and depressing at one point – so if these exercises can help me improve my life, I know they can help you as well.
In fact, everyone should learn about how their minds work and how to improve them. There should be a class in school that teaches every kid how to use these powers.
If we did that, the whole world would be a better place.
In my quest to make the world a better place, I’ve put together everything you need to know about self improvement in an easy step-by-step system that anyone can practice and master within weeks.
The best part is: you don’t have to go through the years of painful research that I did. It’s all here for you right now.
This system is called The Social Transformation Course.
Do you want to learn more about it?
The Social Transformation Course
The Social Transformation Course teaches you important tools and exercises in a simple and easy-to-follow system that anyone can begin practicing for themselves.
You don’t need a psychologist. You don’t need a therapist. And you don’t need a pill. You just need a willingness to learn and try new things – and the Social Transformation Course provides all the guidance and information you need.
The structure of the course is simple. It’s a 3 month course that includes 14 different lessons that will be sent each week. You’ll also receive additional articles, ebooks, videos, and MP3s that will compliment the main course.
Here’s a quick breakdown of each week’s lesson:
- Week #1: Getting your mind to start thinking in a new direction
- Week #2: Focusing on your strengths and positive attributes
- Week #3: Building new thought patterns that inspire and motivate
- Week #4: Identifying the areas in your life that give you social anxiety
- Week #5: How to use your body to change your mental state
- Week #6: Reframing “negative beliefs” into “positive beliefs” that are more constructive
- Week #7: Finding ways to socialize in small ways that are easy for you
- Week #8: How conversations work and never run out of things to say
- Week #9: Exposing yourself to new situations and expand your comfort zone
- Week #10: Finding positive role models in your life that you can learn from
- Week #11: The power of your imagination to prepare your mind for the real world
- Week #12: Practicing improvisation to think more freely and spontaneously
- Week #13: Discovering how role playing can help you expand your identity
- Week #14: Practicing “loving-kindness” to expand your positivity toward everyone
Each of these lessons is an important piece of the self improvement “puzzle” that will ultimately help you overcome your social anxiety and shyness.
Each week you’ll receive a new lesson that goes in depth on one of these topics – and each week will include “take home” exercises that you’ll be able to practice on your own time.
There is a lot of information throughout the course, so it was very important to me that it was structured in a very easy-to-digest way so that you’ll never feel overwhelmed by it.
One of the main goals behind the Social Transformation Course is to give you a wide range of exercises, tools, and information – but in a simple and easy to understand way that anyone can practice and benefit from.
Throughout the course I will also be sending out “Follow Up” emails to help keep you on track and give you an opportunity to ask questions and get feedback on your progress.
Spreading out the material over the course of 14 weeks will give you a good amount of time to follow all the lessons and complete all of the exercises without getting overwhelmed.
You’ll also always have access to everything so you can feel free to go at your own pace (or even redo lessons at anytime).
Mind-Changing Hypnosis Exercises
Throughout the course you will receive several hypnosis exercises in MP3 format. You can choose to listen to these on your computer, iPod, mobile phone, or tablet.
These MP3s will be very useful to guide you throughout the course – and the best part is you will always have them to go back to when you need them. They are yours forever!
These hypnosis MP3 exercises include:
- Progressive Muscle Relaxation – A very simple hypnosis walkthrough that will help you calm your whole body from head-to-toe. One of the most common relaxation exercises supported by scientific research!
- Blue Energy Hypnosis – A great hypnosis exercise where you visualize a calm “blue energy” around you. You can bring this calm “blue energy” with you wherever you go, so you’ll be able to calm yourself in literally any situation.
- Social Confidence Hypnosis – Another visualization exercise that is designed to boost feelings of self-esteem and confidence. This will be very useful to help boost your confidence before a big date, job interview, or public presentation.
- Break Up Hypnosis – This is another wonderful hypnosis that will help you get over any “break up” or “divorce” with someone who you are still very attached to.
All of these are yours to keep forever once you sign up to The Social Transformation Course!
10 Bonus Self Improvement Ebooks
As someone who has been studying psychology for over a decade, I’ve written dozens of guides on self improvement.
It’s truly my utmost passion to share as much knowledge and information as possible with those who seek to better themselves and their lives. If this knowledge can help me, then I know it can help others too!
That’s why I’ve decided that any student of The Social Transformation Course will also get ALL of the guides that I’ve written over the past few years.
These bonus self improvement ebooks include…
A comprehensive guide on everything relationships, including helpful exercises to improve your self-esteem, communication, body language, empathy, and how to build healthier connections with others.
The Science of Self Improvement
This is my main self improvement guide which includes key chapters on beliefs, emotions, habits, relationships, work, and health – all which come together to give you a “complete picture” of your mind and mental health.
This workbook includes 9 different meditations to help you improve your awareness toward many areas of your life, including a “Breathing Meditation,” “Sound Meditation,” and “Walking Meditation.”
The Emotional Intelligence Toolkit
Emotional intelligence is our ability to become more aware of our emotions and regulate them more effectively. This workbook includes 8 different tools and exercises designed to help you improve your emotional intelligence in your everyday life.
This is a 15 day workbook that will walk you through different tools and exercises related to improving gratitude and appreciation toward your life.
How to Meet New People
This guide is focused on how to overcome “approach anxiety” – our fear of meeting new people and sparking conversations. It also includes helpful tips on how to improve your conversations and social interactions.
The Science of Self-Affirmations
This guide includes everything you’ll ever need to know about “positive affirmations” how to actually use them, including over 100 affirmations from my own personal collection.
31 Day Self Improvement Workbook
A 31 day step-by-step crash course, including daily exercises, to help get you started on your self improvement journey and start seeing immediate benefits. Easily printable too!
The Art of Flirting
Flirting is an art that often requires that we engage people on many emotional levels. This guide teaches you some of the main “ingredients” behind flirting and how to create a recipe for flirting that works for you.
Big Goals Guide
This guide is focused on how to properly set “big goals” in your life (both at work and home) and how to stay motivated while working to achieve them. It includes practical advice and exercises.
These guides will be a fantastic resource for you as you start your path of self improvement.
By themselves, these guides are worth the whole price of this course – but I’m throwing them in completely for free, because I want you to know that I’m really serious about this stuff and I believe this stuff really works.
If you read all of these guides, you’ll likely never need to read a self improvement book ever again!
Unlimited Email Support
While much of this course is focused on self improvement, it always helps to have people in your corner rooting you on and motivating you.
Throughout the course, I will be available as a friend and coach. You can feel free to email me at anytime and I’ll get back to you with positive feedback and constructive advice.
Many times I find that I can offer more personalized information and advice if I know specifically about you, your situation, and what you’re currently going through in your life.
So by giving you guys opportunities to interact with me one on one, I can dive much, much deeper into what I know, and share far more information with you than if you were just reading an article or an ebook by me.
As many of you already know, my life is centered on learning more about psychology and self improvement. I read new books, articles, and studies on a daily basis. I also moderate online communities about psychology on Twitter, Facebook, and Reddit with hundreds of thousands of subscribers.
I literally eat and breathe psychology and self improvement – so there is a lot I can share with you through 1 on 1 discussions if you use me as a resource to learn from, or just a friend to talk to.
The Social Transformation Course gives you direct access to me via e-mail for the whole duration of the course. So if you have any thoughts or questions you want to ask me at anytime, you can e-mail me – and I’ll respond back to you within 24 hours with lengthy and detailed responses.
It really matters to me that you make the most of the course and the knowledge I’ll be sharing with you. By giving you more access to me, I can better ensure that you get as much out of this course as you possibly can.
Ultimately, you will only get out of this course what you’re willing to put in. The more you participate, follow the material, and ask me questions – the more value you’re going to get out of it.
(P.S. – If you interact with me on Twitter @NewSocialSelf, you already know how sincere I am when it comes to reaching out to people and answering their questions.)
60 Day – “Try The Course” – 100% Money Back Guarantee
Your investment in this course is backed by a 60 Day “Try The Course” Money Back Guarantee.
Here’s how it works:
When you enroll in the course today, you have a FULL 60 days to try out the course and see if it’s right for you.
If by the end of the 60 days you don’t feel like the course works for you, all you need to do is email me and I’ll refund the full price of the course with no questions asked.
Why do I do this? Because I know, without a shadow of a doubt, that you’re going to love this course and the results it brings you in your life. And I’m willing to put my money where my mouth is to prove to you this is the right course for you.
I believe in this course so much that I don’t want you to feel like there is any risk in signing up and trying this stuff out for yourself! You deserve that guarantee.
See What People Are Saying…
The Social Transformation Course is a very new program but we just recently finished with our first round of students. Here are some of the positive things being said so far…
“Before I discovered Social Transformation, I was a freshman at college who had zero friends and felt completely alone. By the end of this course I’ve grown a new sense of confidence in myself and finally found a social circle where I feel like I truly belong. Steven has been a great help in allowing me to find my true self and become a more sociable person. And because of him, I’m now looking forward to my next few years at college.”
“I’ve been to countless therapists but no one seemed to really care about me as much as Steven did. The lessons in the course provided me with some great nuggets of wisdom but the real pay-off for me was having Steven there by my side to answer my questions and give me positive support. Steven is the real deal and I’m tremendously grateful for his help. Thank you!”
“I’ve never had a girlfriend or been on a date in my entire life. I thought I was destined to be single and die alone. Social Transformation taught me that anything is possible and no one has to die alone. I went on my first date a couple weeks ago. This course is awesome and taught me so much about myself.”
“This course is jam-packed with information! It starts a bit slow, but the lessons continue to build on each other until you have a whole system to help you improve yourself and your relationships. I’ve read dozens of self improvement books in the past (and taken a few seminars), but the Social Transformation Course is one of the most practical and educational systems out there. Steven knows his stuff.”
“When I started taking medication for my social anxiety it really helped me but I still felt like something was missing. The Social Transformation Course has helped me fill in the blanks and take my social life to the next level. I highly recommend it to anyone with social anxiety no matter where you are in life.”
My students so far have been such amazing people. They took the lessons seriously and we’re highly engaged with all the materials, which I think is very necessary if you want to make the most out of the course.
I can’t possibly take all of the credit for their progress, but I’m appreciative of all their kind words – and I can’t wait to work with more awesome people in the future!
Could you be the next success story?
Let’s Get Started!
Does the Social Transformation Course sound like something you want to try?
Let’s share how you can get started today…
First, you’re probably asking yourself what does a course like this cost? Obviously this takes a lot of time, work, and dedication to create, so I can’t just open up the course to anyone.
But let me ask you…
What’s it worth to you to start living the social life you want and not just keep watching from the sidelines?
Living a healthy social life is so important to our happiness and success, so there’s really no proper amount of money that can accurately reflect it.
If you were to go to a typical therapist or coach, you’d probably be spending hundreds of dollars per hour to see them. And that quickly adds up over time because you wouldn’t just be spending that once, but each time you visit.
At the end of the day, seeing a therapist or coach can cost you thousands of dollars per year – and that’s not something that many people can realistically afford.
The goal of this course is to provide a much better solution – a system that has all the information you need, delivered in an easy way that anyone can get access to.
So let’s just cut to it – the whole Social Transformation Course is currently available for a one time investment of $99.99. This includes all 3 months of lessons plus all of the bonus materials (and access to the Social Transformation Community).
I understand that may seem like a lot to some, but keep in mind this is a big course with a lot of content – and it requires your dedication and commitment. You’ll be getting 100x more information compared to anything else out there.
The main reason I really wanted to do this at a super low price is because this course is still very new and I think people should be rewarded for taking action early and not just sitting still and doing nothing. As the course gets more popular, it’s possible that this price will go up in the future.
So if you’re the type of person to take action now then you’re the type of person that I want to take this course. And you’re the type of person that I want to work with and help out in the future.
Are you ready for the The Social Transformation Course? Do you want to overcome your social anxiety and start transforming it into real social confidence and social excellence?
Social Transformation Course
+ 3 Month Online Course
+ 14 Weekly Lessons on Social Confidence
+ 4 Mind-Changing Hypnosis MP3s
+ 10 Bonus Self Help Ebooks
+ Unlimited Email Support
(My “Just Do It” Discount)
You can get the complete Social Transformation Course by donating $20 to my Patreon account. Click above to find out more and sign up. If you have any questions, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org